Can a friendship come to an organic end?
Relationships are hard, there is no doubt about it. Sustaining a friendship for decades is even harder. As we progress through life holding the hand or hands of the friends who we love the most can be tricky especially when life takes on career, travel, marriage and kids. What happens when the one person or persons takes on a different path and decide that what they loved about you twenty years ago is no longer the case? I'm fortunate and grateful that there are those precious few who have truly been my friend for many decades, but there are also friendships that have come into my life and just as easily departed. For that I feel sad at the loss. There were no disputes, no disagreements, we simply drifted. The phone calls became obsolete, there were less things to say. I sometimes ask 'Could I have done more?'
The acronym BFF made its way into pop culture on or around 1996. 'Best Friends Forever' although this phrase is usually coined by a drunken maid of honour, or a representative of the millennial. But historically, there have been many BFF's; Edina & Patsy; Tina Fey & Amy Poehler and Abbott & Costello just to name three. What is it about these friendships that makes it stick? Did they start off small and grow together? Did both realise and respect each others opinions and values, no matter how many times they held your hair back or whatever soapbox moment you had?
The fact is, a friendship comes to an organic end when the effort stops. When it all gets too hard, when the spouse steps in the way, when your kids arn't friends, when you are separated by oceans, when you/they choose someone else, when your career takes over. I think I may be on the verge of an organic end, I hope not. I'll have to delve into my bag of 'remember whens' to reminisce all those funny things that bought us together in the first place - especially the ones that include anything starting with 'A' and ending with' L.'
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