Be the creator of memories
Lately there's been numerous discussions in our household about getting out and doing things, see and experience life. Master X is hesitant and for the life of me I can't understand why. I often compare his opportunities with my own (at his age) and when the topic arises, I'm surprised that he doesn't jump at the chance to get on a plane (or train or any other modes of transport) and seek the (vicarious) adventure I crave. When I was trying to explain the importance of branching out and doing something out of your comfort zone, I summed it up in a statement, that 'in order for one's character to grow, one must create memories.'Mind you, he was being held captive (ha, only because I was driving and he didn't bring along his headphones and that I was taking control of Spotify), he was slave to one of my most favourite memories. A memory from more than three decades ago when I was a teenager on a European winter adventure sometime in December 1980 something.
I'll be writing a short shorty on that very soon, but as a quick summary, this event, which is so fixated in my sub conscious, goes a little something like this:Girl goes on trip to Europe, girl meets up with childhood friends. Girl is invited to a concert/dance party half an hours bus ride from home. Girl has the time of her life, dancing, laughing, flirting. Girl and childhood friends find themselves having to walk until daybreak home, along a snow covered road. Its snowing lightly, but they push on from one village to another, all the while sharing conversations of dreams and aspirations. Girl makes it home, climbs the gate, wakes the household to let her in the house and falls into bed and sleeps and extra 12 hours. To this day, I'm still in contact with those childhood friends and each time we meet, a little extra info about that night makes its way into our conversations.This is just one incident in my many adventures, but the point I was so desperately trying to make, was that because of these memories I am who I am. If you look at your friendship circle, you'll come to notice that because of this personality trait, you tend to attract similar people with similar likes. I would say that the people I choose to surround myself with have this same notion. I wish for my offspring to feel the rush of excitement and to be able to look back on his own memories with a big smile on his face. Let's hope the apple does not fall far from the tree.
5 things important about being the creator of memories.
Storytelling historically is important when we pass down textual anecdotes to the next generation, your memory becomes one of theirs.
An adventure doesn't necessarily mean you need to travel the ends of the earth, you can create a memory in your own backyard living in the moment
Let loose a little. Our group of friends often organise big family outings, whether its camping or picking chestnuts, when we look back on the photos, each smile on each little persons face describes that lovely, lovely day!
How much more informed an individual would you be? Always learning and growing.
Just to re cap from my previous blog post, you'll always have an interesting dinner (story) to tell.
#socialobservations #lookingaround #whatpeoplereallythink #voice #generation
