"Yes, I'll have a drink with that." How not to let others unload their crap on you.
If I've heard it once, I'll seriously have heard it quite a few times. You know, someone else's story! Whilst I've always had a compassionate ear for others' misfortunate tales of woe, I've sympathised and listened without judgement, but now, I'm sorry, but I don't have time for you to unload your shit on me. (I do believe that was a line from a song!)"Crass, what a bitch" you must think. But tell me, why is it, that when you are asked,"So, how are you coping?" the answer somehow never really relates to your story, it's always someone else's."My sister's best friend had cancer, my uncle was diagnosed, I really feel ill, should I get it checked out?"It's at this point that I check out and visualise my fifth G&T. You see, whilst I can really sympathise, I can't take on any more information, I need to be able to process and digest my imminent future right now – actually. The ear that I need, is the ear that allows me to inject a bit of verbal diahorrea. So I apologise in advance if I hurt your feelings, but its not intentional.Here's what I've learnt so far about revealing the Big C.
Choose your story carefully, remember, it's your story, you own it.
Choose who you tell carefully. Even family members and work colleagues have a tendancy to turn themselves into the victim.
After you've finished the antibiotics it's ok to have a G&T (just one!)
Take on a black humour approach, I'm sticking with my 'I'll be skinny for a long time' theory.
Keep a positive mindset, you'll get through this!
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